September 2021
Positive Relationships
Building and keeping positive relationships can make us generally happier, and help us to become inspired. We are at our happiest when we connect with other people. Even the introverts who like spending time alone and are not usually excited about social occasions are happier when they connect with somebody. Having positive people in our lives helps us to know and understand ourselves better. Our friendships are among the most valuable relationships we have because when we feel that we have someone’s support, we feel motivated to reach for more, and our perception of challenges actually change. It's very empowering to have supportive and encouraging people in our lives, and in order to attract the right kind of people, we must keep in mind that the more positive energy we give off, the more positive connections we’ll attract to our lives, and the same principle also applies for negativity: Love attracts love. Anger attracts anger. Passion attracts passion. One of the reasons that positive connections are so important is the fact that they can offer us support and encouragement during our bad times. Having positive people around you is priceless and offer you something that can't be found in material possessions. When it comes to healthy an positive relationships, quality is more important than quantity. It’s not the quantity of your relationships, but the quality that matters. Just one positive and supportive friend can make a big impact in your emotional wellbeing. Having someone around you who values your company, makes you feel wanted, special, and boosts your confidence and self esteem can be life changing. When it comes to making positive connections, you should keep in mind that kindness is contagious. So, open yourself up to new friendships and welcome opportunities for growth. An act or even a thought of kindness can make a really great impact in your life: it creates a contagious effect, as kindness blesses the one who gives, and it also blesses the one who receives it. Remember that any relationship in life is a two way street: before you can expect someone to like and trust you, you need to know your values and love yourself, so you can show someone else that you are trustworthy. Reciprocity is a component of maintaining positive relationships: a friend is the most valuable thing you can have, and the best thing you can be. Ask yourself if the way you communicate and behave are resulting in positive relationships with friends, colleagues, family and clients, or if you are attracting the opposite to your life. If it seems like you’re always crossing wires and failing to connect with the people in your life, you need to look at the way you are communicating and presenting yourself to others. If you are emitting negativity, you will not be able to attract and build good relationships that will help you grow as a person. Positive connections in life is vital to your emotional health because you can gain in various ways from different relationships as your friends are people that you select based on shared values, ideals, experiences, interests and beliefs. They will be in your most precious memories, and represent different stages of your journey. Showing appreciation for others is a wonderful way to make a powerful connection and improve your overall feeling of positivity. Remember that your thoughts create your beliefs and your beliefs create your attitudes. If your thoughts are constantly negative, they will attract other people that are in the same frequency. Increasing your positivity will help you build positive social connections and give you the power to change any negative situation. Negative thinkers are usually unhopeful, irritable and difficult to be around. Be aware of the vibes you are emitting and keep an optimistic perspective, because you belong to an universe of attraction and energy. Remember that it’s impossible to make positive connections when we are not connected with ourselves, so work on connecting to your own soul and using your own resources, before you can find others that will be loyal and honest with you. Learn to enjoy positive experiences, and to express gratitude and appreciation often. Positive connections don't take a lot of time to build. They can start with regular small acts of kindness, and these small gestures usually pay big dividends.
Written By Beverley ( Intuitive | Clairvoyant | Healer )
August 2021
Look After Yourself
Be true to yourself It is difficult to be confident when you are trying to be someone you are not. Sometimes we can find inspiration in others as a way to improve ourselves, but it doesn’t matter how hard you try to be inspired by someone else’s accomplishments, in the end of the day, you are always left with what you think of yourself. Do you know who you are? Be your own judge today, and take a moment to reflect on your on thoughts. Do you admire yourself, or do you feel unsuccessful? When you accept yourself, others will follow your lead. That’s why is so important to have a positive self image. You are not the number on your bank account, the way you look or what you possess. You are beyond all that stuff. What you need to realise is that what really define you is your effort, and not your accomplishments. Chances are you're really hard on yourself. Eliminating self-critical thoughts is important to stay positive and honour yourself. Our emotions are a fuel which makes our thoughts powerful. When we think that we are not capable of dealing with our life and our problems, we make everything impossible to conquer. Be proud of yourself, practice self love and remember that what really count is that feeling that make you strive for more, your hard work, and your determination.
Written By Beverley ( Intuitive | Clairvoyant | Healer )
July 2021
Be Mindful And Free
Living a fulfilling life is possible if you have a heart full of hope and dreams. Dreams involve risk. They involve putting yourself out there and fighting for what you want. You can only achieve your dreams if you keep a positive mindset despite negative influences. When trying to achieve your dreams, the most important factor is to stay motivated to do so. It's very easy to get overwhelmed or distracted in a world where most of people don’t know the importance of knowing their purpose in life. Life is a precious gift. Every day we have an incredible opportunity to live fully, feel joy and satisfaction. Learning how to love yourself is a key ingredient for happiness and also to understand how you truly feel about all the things going on in your life. By living a grateful life, and doing things in ways that feel right to you, you can live in alignment with your soul. Enjoying life is all about making a choice to adopt a positive mindset, and going through a period of reflection and gratitude. The best way to find happiness is to make simple everyday changes. First of all you need to allow yourself to enjoy life. You need to practice kindness and respect for yourself in order to learn how to be kind to others and respect others. If you don’t have faith in yourself, you will fail to take action. Believing in yourself involves accepting your circumstances and having trust in your choices. In order to achieve your goals, you need to put your mistakes behind you, and focus on your qualities. Think about when was the last time you simply enjoyed life. Think about a moment when you were connected to yourself, to others and to the world around you. Deep inside you know when you’re not living in alignment with your true essence. Even when nothing is obviously wrong in your life, you get an unsettling feeling that nothing feels right, and everyday feels the same, no excitement at all. If you want to live a happier life, you need to free yourself from what is causing you to be miserable, and the only way to do it, is by not being dependent on external circumstances to feel positive emotions, but rather find satisfaction from an inner sense of wellbeing, and living in alignment with your values. It’s noticing the world around you, and trying to look at it as something imbued with the unknown. Include meditation time in your routine, learn to slow down even if just for a few moments, and reconnect with what is happening from moment to moment. Meditation helps you to notice more of what is present both in your environment and within yourself. If I’ve learned one thing in life, it is that in order to find inspiration, we need to disconnect from our usual routine. Start a journal or simply make a list of the talents, skills and thoughts that you have, and your goals in life. Be prepared to open yourself to new experiences, because you are always able to learn new things. Remember to focus on the small steps when working toward achieving your goals, and avoid looking at the big picture, otherwise you're going to get overwhelmed. Your desire may take time to achieve, but you have to begin somewhere. It all starts with making a decision to live a better lifestyle that feels good and stick to it. Let go of your fears, and give yourself the time and permission for self-love in order to make your dreams a reality. Dare to leave your comfort zone, and take some risks in order to move forward. Remember that being positive about your future is the key to maintain your life worth living. No one else is going to go after your dreams for you. Everyone has their own dreams and their own goals for what they want to achieve in life. Most of the successful and inspiring people in the world aren’t different from you, they just had the courage and sense of self-worth to go after their dreams. Having a positive mindset and feeling good in the present moment increases your chance for success. Happiness brings success to your life, not the other way round… so don’t limit yourself to what everybody else thinks you should do. Live a life where you wake up every day feeling excited because you have something to live for. Miracles starts to happen when you give as much energy to your dreams, as you do to your fears.
Written By Beverley ( Intuitive | Clairvoyant | Healer )
Listen To Yourself
Your brain uses a combination of logic and emotion when making decisions of any kind. The specific emotion that you have during this process is known as your intuition. We all possess the capacity to feel, and thereby the ability to know things without consciously reasoning. Intuition is something that you can perceive based on instinctive feeling rather than a conscious level. Creating time in your life to be conscious about the incredible force of this spiritual energy and its uplifting power, can help you to live a better life. You can use your higher senses to perceive and connect to the spiritual energy inside yourself, and around you in order to gain clarity and become more spiritually aware. Meditation is a great tool to access your intuitive power and sense and experience spiritual energy, because it allows you to relax and focus your mind. It also helps you to get in touch with your Higher Self, deactivating your senses from the material world, and activating your ability to communicate to the spiritual world. It’s very important to acknowledge and connect to your own source of energy in order to be prepared to connect with any other energy outside yourself. The process of accessing inner guidance begins when you trust your intuitive knowledge. When you get in touch with your own inner sense of wisdom, you are able to clear your mind in order to receive advice. When our mind is calm, we can find the secret doorway to our intuitive senses. If you have an important decision to make, try going somewhere quiet, closing your eyes and taking deep breaths. It is always easier to tune in to your intuition when you focus on your present and your surroundings. The secret to increasing your intuitive awareness is to stay in the moment, because intuition express itself in the present. If you have a negative feeling and your thoughts are in the future, you are not listening to your intuition, you are actually listening to your fears. Remember that the more attention you pay to your surroundings, the more attuned you become with the world around you. Training yourself to listen to your intuition is necessary in order not to confuse unrealistic fears with intuition. Intuition feels right in your gut, and don’t agree with destructive feelings or behaviour. In contrast to fear, intuition has positive connotations that helps you make your way through life. Your intuition is not a feeling that make yourself nervous, because you think that something negative is about to pass in your life; instead, your intuitive ability will alert you that something feels right or wrong, in a compassionate, affirming way. Awakening to the soul is not an intellectual process; it is a state of being. It’s impossible to find truth when we let our thoughts be directed by our own ego. You have all the answers in your subconscious mind, but a high ego does not identify with your soul in any possible way. Good and assertive decisions are made only when you decide to be consistent with your core values. When your mind is directed outwards, your energy continues to flow away. It is important to constant remind yourself to be mindful of the moment and take pleasure in all activities that you do during your day, so you can access your intuition more easily. Make an effort to allow negative energies to be released and replaced with positivity and light. Surround yourself with positive people. Some of us may have more natural abilities to absorb energy around us than others. Anytime you are overwhelmed by your own thoughts, sit quietly and ask for spiritual guidance. It is the connection to your spiritual self which provides you with intuitive information. That’s why being aware of your own self and making a connection to your essence, will result in increasing your intuitive power. If you feel like you’ve distanced yourself from your true values, avoid fixating on the past. Take time to consider what makes up the essence of who you are. Be open to receive positive spiritual energy, and allow it to guide you to the right path.
Written By Beverley ( Intuitive | Clairvoyant | Healer )
June 2021
Heart And Mind
The heart likes someone or something and craves for it. The mind gives the facts, the statistics, and the probabilities of every situation. While the mind is strategic, purposeful and maybe even a little too careful, the heart provides the excitement and inspiration to make something happen. Our rational side combines sense, thinking, judgement, and memory, allowing us to weigh cost and benefit to make reasoned decisions. A balance between both mind and heart is necessary in order to be in the right path in life. We all need to learn the importance of balancing logic, feelings, and, ultimately, God’s commands before making major life decisions. In the past, I usually leaned toward making more decisions using my heart than my mind. As life went on, I began to understand that while taking my feelings into consideration is crucial in the decision-making process, I couldn’t be blinded by my feelings. In every decision I make, I need to trust my instincts, but also logically analyse the outcome of my choices. We are given logic and emotions as a part of us as a gift to help us live life. We can’t to suppress any part of ourselves: we all have a head and a heart for a reason. Our hearts can not control our decisions, but it needs to be part of the process. Some people will follow logic without consulting their feelings, and others will follow their hearts without considering the consequences. The truth is that the mind and heart don’t have to be mutually exclusive. When we clear our mind of repetitive thoughts and worries, we can make it easier to find ways to make them work together. In order to stop the battle between the heart and the mind, we need to listen to our hearts while we allow our minds to guide us. Everything we do requires energy. When our energy is bright and steady, we feel good and act effectively; when it's low or scattered, we feel bad and messed up. Wise decisions are not only based on logic, it also takes our intuition into consideration. Regulating and directing our life has to do with setting wise boundaries, between heart and mind. It is correct to say that materialistic things based only on facts won't satisfy our souls. Inner peace is achieved when we prioritise our values. Our hearts are related to a sense of core values that don’t always get included in our rational thought process. When we are not emotionally balanced, we tend to make decisions only using our hearts. When our emotions are balanced, we don't crave for materialistic things, we are able to consider all aspects when making a decision. We need sensibility and sensitivity. We are used to access rational thinking, weighing the pros and cons of life events every day. It is a very valuable, useful trait that helps us to gain, organise, and analyse information to reach a sound conclusion, but without the heart input, nothing differs us humans, from a machine. All decisions can’t be based on facts, because we don’t always have all the facts. Take your time in order to observe what's going on to develop an insight and an understanding of how thoughts and feelings control you. When we are stressed, we end up making decisions solely based on my emotions that can lead to some serious disappointment and heartbreak. When we often have a million and one things happening at once, a chattering mind is the last thing we need. Being spiritually balanced means finding a way for both the heart and the mind to stop contradicting each other, because they are meant to work together.
Written By Beverley ( Intuitive | Clairvoyant | Healer )
Become A Better Person
Are you happy with who you are? We all need to be accountable for our own actions in order to move forward in life. Nobody is perfect, and we all make mistakes. If you want to grow as a person, take some time for introspection, and be willing to change what you don’t like about yourself. Change is the only way to grow and progress into the person you want to become. Many people are against change, which can make it very hard to grow. When you keep an open mind and are willing to change, you are able to grow into the person you want to become. There is nothing worse than living a life of self-hate. If you want to be more connected to others, you need to work on being more in touch with yourself first. Learning to take accountability for your own mistakes is extremely important. When you stop making excuses, and take the blame when something is truly your fault, you will be able to achieve so much more. By accepting that you made a mistake, you will be able to use your mistakes to learn, which in turn, will help you to become a better person. Get comfortable with being who you are, and let go of your everyday worries. Just try not to focus on the big picture. Instead, notice the little details of life that makes you happy. Prioritise things in your life. Stop doing some of the least important things, the things that really don’t matter that much to you. The process of self knowledge requires you to reconnect with your essence, and to identify your ideal self. Make a mental picture of who you would like to be, and write down all your ideal traits. This is the first step to start living a life that is true to your ideal self. Think about how you could be a better friend, a better sibling, a better child, a better parent and a better partner. Keep in mind that getting rid of what is unnecessary in your life is also life-changing. Eliminate stress by stopping sweating the small stuff, and reconnecting with nature. Remember that you don’t have to go to exotic lands or travel far to be in contact with nature. Bring some plants and fresh flowers into your home, walk barefoot in your garden. Enjoy the sights and sounds, watch the sunset, and you will be able to connect to your essence. In order to become a better person is important to accept, and also love yourself. The process of self-acceptance starts with acknowledging the fact that we judge ourselves all the time, so try to be more self compassionate, and value every part and aspect of yourself. Accepting yourself and your circumstances is important to your happiness, and contributes to your process of self improvement. It is also important to stop being judgmental because people think and/or act differently from you. Every person is different, and has his or her own way of being. When you are about to judge someone, remember that judgmental people tend to be very stressed. Recognise that every person is capable of doing something on his or her own. Try not to tell people what to do, unless you are asked to do so. Listening to people and giving everyone a voice is one of the greatest things you can do. Ask for guidance from the spiritual world and start noticing what makes you feel fulfilled. Stop doing things that waste your energy and do not fulfil your soul. Think about what you want to pursue and what you don’t wish to keep in your life. Practice mindfulness by meditating, by looking into your life, and thinking about what's going on right now. Remember that only when we love ourselves, we are able to be proud of our journey, and look back at past mistakes in a positive way. We are all able to make better choices in life, and find the right path, no matter how long we stayed in the wrong path before. All we need to do is to start making decisions that honour our true values. Try to look at your life in a way you have never thought possible. Connect your soul to what moves you, and you will be able to live a life consistent with your highest values and aspirations. Stop ignoring your blessings, retune to your spiritual self. You can develop your personal path of happiness with positive thinking, healthy thoughts, self awareness and confidence.
Written By Beverley ( Intuitive | Clairvoyant | Healer )
Love Or Fear
All positive emotions come from love, all negative emotions from fear. Deep down, there are two main emotions: love and fear. t’s our choice to be in one place or the other. Love and fear are opposites. If we're in fear, we are not in a place of love. When love is present, fear is non existent. There is no way to be both in a place of love and fear, it’s impossible. One of the best decisions you can make is to let go of fear. Fear is the root of all other negative emotions. When we hold on to fear, anger and resentment, all these emotions are actually occupying a space inside of us, blocking us from feeling truly happy and fulfilled. Love leads to forgiveness and self compassion. When we love ourselves, we open our ability to love others. Embracing life means using love to nurture passion, excitement, and acceptance. Fear makes us look at ourselves as victims. Feeling sorry for yourself and your circumstances leads you to become addicted to negativity. Always remember that the only difference between a good life and a bad life is your attitude. You deserve prosperity. Always make choices based on love, in order to unlock the potential to live the life of your dreams. When you begin to nurture positive thoughts, and to be hopeful in life, you will be equipped with strength. You will start living a more meaningful and fulfilling life, because each day, you will know that you are pursuing what sets your soul on fire. When you believe in your potential, you create your own destiny. If you focus on fear, you lose your identity, and it is hard to recognise that you can change your life. You are unique and worthy. Never forget your positive attributes. When you learn to trust God, and let go of fear, it’s possible to live a life inspired by hope. You were born with a life purpose. When you really understand this message, you realise that if something doesn’t have a meaning in your life, you should make room for the real important things. Acknowledge and honour your values. Keep in mind that fear holds you back, and love give you wings. Choosing love is a decision that you have to make every day. It doesn't mean you will never experience fear again. It means that you are allowing many of your fears to be healed. Just continue to choose love in order to stop attracting negativity to our life. Love and hope are very powerful spiritual tools. They allow you to expand your perspective beyond the walls that were built by your ego that only says that bad things happen in life. When you only see fear, you tend to perpetuate pain and to interact with people based on that perception. Remember that your spirit is your essence. Avoid dedicating your time to calculate risks while putting no energy into your spirituality. You don’t want to end up spiritually and even physically unhealthy. Meditation can help you to clear your mind and make wiser decisions, based on love. Invite peace and harmony into your daily routine, and choose a spiritual practice that help you to focus on love, hope and positive intentions. It is easier for us to have negative thoughts and feelings than it is to have positive, loving thoughts, and emotions. Choosing love is accepting a constant challenge, and knowing that everything can be improved if you live in the present, without regretting the past and being anxious about the future. Regretting past decisions takes away the energy you could be using to better your life. If you keep a positive attitude and you have love as your moving force in life, you will be able to be proud of your choices, and you'll make it through any obstacles your way.
Written By Beverley ( Intuitive | Clairvoyant | Healer )
May 2021
A Brighter Future
It can be hard to be confident when your life is full of problems. Sometimes we can find inspiration in others as a way to improve ourselves, but it doesn’t matter how hard you try to be inspired by someone else’s accomplishments, in the end of the day, you are always left with what you think of yourself. Do you value yourself and your skills? Be your own judge, and take a moment to reflect on how your feel about yourself. Do you admire yourself, or do you feel unsuccessful? Sometimes it’s hard to see the good in our lives, and stay strong in our faith; but no matter the amount of problems we have, it is very important to take time everyday to thank God for our blessings. When you find that you're thinking negatively about life, stop and turn that thinking around by remembering how perfect you are to God. There is an unique energy inside you, that brings up all these feelings of happiness and accomplishment and allows you to cultivate an aura of positivity and light. When you trust the Holy Spirit you are able to see things from a different point of view, you allow God to bless you with peace and you are able to attract good energies that will help you to take control of your life: to make it easier, productive and satisfying. If you feel lost, or if you have a big problem in your life, instead of nurturing negativity and fear, take a few moments to appreciate the good things you have going on. Creating a feeling of gratitude will make you understand that you are blessed and capable to accomplish your goals. Nurturing your spirituality can help you to feel confident and push past the negativity, in order to turn your situation around. It’s is important to pay attention on where you are putting your focus on, to became a better person and understand why you are getting negative results. Remember, you can lose everything, but you cannot lose faith in yourself. Take some time to examine what you have in your life, and decide to be grateful and positive when you are confronted with problems. When I learned this lesson, I understood that we attract the energy that we release to the universe. When you shift the energy miracles can happen. You can either allow an event to crush you or remake you into someone stronger and with greater purpose. A positive atmosphere can bring you many blessings and can get you far in life. We all need to acknowledge that peace is wonderful, but it starts within ourselves. We can’t change our circumstances if we are always complaining and attracting negativity to our life. Start making a change by choosing to bring God with His peace and harmony into your life, learn to recognise the little everyday blessings and to be truly grateful for them; do not take them for granted. Meditate, or pray regularly in spirit too. Allow yourself to be guided by the Holy Spirit. Remember that a more grateful life is a happier life. Stop treating yourself as a failure and focus on your strengths. Your mind is powerful, and if you use it the right way, it can reinforce your belief, making it ultimately stronger. Adopting a positive mindset is recognising that God is counting on you to use your blessings and gifts. What you need to realise is that what really define you is your effort and your faith. When you think that you are not capable of dealing with your life and your problems, you make everything impossible to conquer. Be proud of yourself, inspiring individuals who have overcome hardship in their lives, used their thoughts as a starting point to achieve their goals. Happiness begins in your thought process: if you change your perspective, your world will also change.
Written By Beverley ( Intuitive | Clairvoyant | Healer )
Feeling Trapped
So many people feel unhappy or dissatisfied with their lives because they think that they have no control over their lives or what happens in it. When you feel that you have little or no control, you stop doing things that could improve your situation, you start feeling helplessness, and you don’t feel motivated to do the activities you used to enjoy. Do you know someone who thinks that no matter what they do, they’ll never be in the right relationship, because they experienced several bad relationships? or maybe they they themselves that they will always lose any people they become attached to? If you are the one who feels helplessness and trapped, because you have this feeling of having no control, or no available options in a situation, you don’t need to feel this way. I may not know what you are going through right now, but I can affirm that you can break this pattern, and increase your number of total available responses in a given situation, and so increase your feeling of control. In order to feel in control you need to be aware of your power and take responsibility. Remember that only you can change the things in your life that you are not happy about. The truth is you have full control of your life. Avoid blaming others and the world for the bad things that happen to you. You are in control of your life, and you hold all of the power. Make use of this power that you have and take the lead, start making choices that will bring happiness into your life. Prioritise your own happiness and give less value to what other people think of you. You need to keep in mind that other people are outside your control, and if you are always worrying about other people views and about your own image, you are not living freely. You can't please everyone, and if you live your life trying to please others, you will feel trapped, alienated and disappointed. You can’t let other people's views dictate how you will live your life. You will be unhappy if you try to be what everyone else wants you to be, and you will lose your freedom. You will always feel that you have no other option to live your life. Your perspective determines the way you see the world, so make sure you’re adopting a positive outlook in life. Your mind has the power to make you see life negatively, and it also has the power to make you feel motivated to do better. Happiness begins in your thought process: if you change your perspective, your world will also change. There is an unique energy inside you, that brings up all these feelings of happiness and accomplishment, and allows you to cultivate an aura of positivity and light. When you are positive and hopeful, you are able to trust the Higher Power to lead you to the right path. You start to see things from a different point of view, and you allow God to bless you with powerful insights in order to change your current situation. If you feel helplessness, go to a quiet place and ask for spiritual guidance. Remember that in order to take control of your life, you must be in control of your thoughts. Be aware of your own thoughts, replace negative and toxic thoughts for positive affirmations, and you will notice both your mindset and your life changing and improving. Learn to love and respect yourself. Respect your body and your own values. Dedicate some time to know yourself and to do what makes you happy. Everything that happens in your life, all the obstacles that you have to overcome, and all the setbacks that you may have in your way, are part of your journey to success. Maybe you feel trapped by your job, relationship, or your financial circumstances. In reality your fears are making you feel this way. Fear wants you to be trapped in the clutches of the weakness that it represents. You need to realise that all this toxic emotions that are making you feel helplessness are afraid of your authentic self, simply because they’ll be eliminated by it. You may be hesitating to break out of your sense of entrapment because of fear of the unknown. Your ego is constantly telling you to continue feeling trapped and passive, but a big part of having self-respect is being able to be brave to leave your comfort zone. Don’t put your own life on hold, have faith and start to expect the best. Remember that you are free to live your life to its fullest and you deserve to be happy.
Written By Beverley ( Intuitive | Clairvoyant | Healer )
February 2021
Regrets
Regrets represents our negative memories. The word regret comes from the Old French word ‘regretter’ which means “bewail the deadâ€. When we regret something, we blame ourselves for things that happened. Living with regret can take a toll on your reputation, relationships, and your work or professional life. Negative memories makes you feel uncomfortable, and stop yourself from moving on to better relationships and outcomes. Re-thinking past decisions and regretting them can cause anxiety. We shouldn’t let regret weigh us down and drain our energy, because doing this, may lead to worrying about future decisions that we might regret later. I’ve learned that often the consequences of our actions or inactions only become clear as time passes. As we get older, we acknowledge that we’ve screwed up, that we’ve either damaged something beyond repair or missed an opportunity, but if we get stuck on a past mistake, regret or disappointment, we can damage our current mental and physical health. We need to use all the pain from our past mistakes to refocus and take the best action in order to pursue a new path in life. Instead of beating ourselves up, we need to reach for a better, kinder thought in order to forgive ourselves, and let go of the painful burdens that interfere with our present happiness, cause us grief, and restrict our future. It is important for us to recognise that every new day is also a new opportunity to change our future. Negative thoughts can make us feel powerless, thinking that we are not able to change the situation, and that’s when regret can turn into rumination and chronic stress that damages mind and body. Adopt a positive perspective and every time you catch yourself thinking about something you regret, discard that thought, rip it up, burn it. Remember that achieving and sustaining happiness and peace is only possible when you consciously stop torturing yourself for the rest of your life because you feel like you deserve it. Suffering is something very easy to achieve, but emancipating yourself from guilt, isn’t; it requires learning something new from the situation, so that the negative aspect of it becomes a positive. When you are haunted by past regrets, stop for a moment and close your eyes. Pretend it never happened, and ask for spiritual guidance, pray for the Higher Power to lead you to make better choices in the future. Breathe and declare yourself free. Do it everyday until it becomes a new habit. It’s normal to find yourself slipping back into unhelpful thoughts, but try to keep in mind that regret has a purpose, it allows you to move forward with extra knowledge. Every day we have many choices to be made, obsessing or ruminating over regrets can bring depression and anxiety to our lives, so choose to re-channel that energy by finding something positive and meaningful to do, like traveling, making new friends, learning something new. Our brains rationalise most of the things we do wrong, but the biggest regret we may have later in life is all the time we wasted on pointless worrying. Spend less time on your fears and more time thinking about what it is you do want to do in your life. Maybe you've had some great opportunities in your life that you never took advantage of because you were too scared, too depressed, or didn't recognise them for what they were. But so what? You will find and create new opportunities. Accept what has happened in the past and move on. Enjoy what you have in your life, and remember that you have learned a lot from your past, and you are worthy of a bright future.
